Want more sex drive? This is what you can do

‍Why am I having less sex drive?

We understand that it can sometimes be difficult to talk about low sex drive. Many men experience periods where they have less desire for sex and lower libido. This can be frustrating, make you feel insecure or cause tension in the relationship. You are certainly not alone and there are many causes: hormonal fluctuations, stress or physical causes can all contribute to a lower libido. Fortunately, there are ways to increase your libido and have sex with confidence and pleasure again.

Causes of Lower Libido

• Stress, tiredness and worry
  Your body and mind have a natural boundary. When you are stressed or tired, this often affects your libido and sexual activity. Recognizing this and working on a healthy balance can already have a major impact.
  
  
• Relationship issues or uncertainty
  If there is tension between you and your partner, or if you are uncertain about your performance, this can inhibit your desire. Negative experiences or criticism in the past can also play a role. Always try to communicate with your partner as openly as possible, understanding each other and knowing what's going on is the first step.
  
  
• Hormones, medication or physical causes
  Some diseases, such as diabetes, reduce libido. Drugs such as antidepressants also sometimes have the side effect of reducing the desire to have sex. You can discuss this with your doctor and possibly adjust the dosage where possible. Diabetes can also lead to a decreased ability to have an erection. This can be solved with erection pills, for example.
  
  
• Problems with erections or pain when having sex
  When sex becomes physically difficult or painful, it can raise the threshold and reduce your desire. Communicate about this with your partner and see what solutions are available. Like lubricants or erection pills. Using both lubricants and erectile drugs is not something to be ashamed of.
  

How can you get more sex drive?

Open communication with your partner

It may feel exciting to say you're not in the mood, but honesty helps. Tell us what you do like and what you find difficult. Also ask about your partner's wishes and needs. This creates mutual understanding, which can already remove tension. Sometimes it's enlightening to discover new ways of intimacy together, without directly striving for penetration.

Example questions to ask:

• What would you like us to try together?
• How can we make it less exciting or busy?
  

By working on it together, you can slowly rebuild trust and desire.

Improve your lifestyle

A healthier body not only helps your overall energy, but also your sexual health. Small adjustments can have a big effect:

• Get enough sleep and plan rest times on busy days.
• Exercise at least 3—4 times a week. Walking, cycling and strength training improve your blood flow, which improves your ability to get an erection.
• Eat a balanced diet, with lots of vegetables, fruit, whole grains and healthy fats.
• Limit alcohol and quit smoking. Both have a negative impact on your libido and erection ability.
  

Tip: Set achievable goals and reward yourself for every step of the way. A healthier lifestyle often not only increases sex drive, but also more self-confidence and energy in general.

What if you also have erection problems?

Low libido and erection problems often reinforce each other. It can feel like a vicious cycle: the fear of failure reduces your desire, and less desire makes it harder to get excited.

Fortunately, there are effective means such as sildenafil (Viagra) and tadalafil (Cialis) that help to get and maintain a firm erection. Many men notice that this increases their self-confidence and their desire slowly returns.

At Fellos, you can get these resources after a full online chat consultation. So you don't have to go to your regular doctor for this and the medication is delivered discreetly.

Help from the sexologist

Sometimes it's nice to look at the causes and solutions with a professional. Fellos' sexologists help you understand underlying patterns and provide practical tips for greater intimacy and excitement. This can be done individually or together with your partner.

With Fellos, you can do it anonymously plan an intake. You discuss your situation with a sexologist, and together you will draw up a plan that suits you. This often provides peace of mind and motivation to take steps.

Drugs for more sex drive

There are no miracle drugs that instantly restore or increase your libido. But erection drugs can help you by making positive experiences with sex possible, bringing back your confidence and desire.

At Fellos, you can order medicines safely and discreetly such as:

• Sildenafil
• Tadalafil

Our doctors will see if these medicines are suitable for you. You will receive your medication in neutral packaging at home without anyone needing to know.

How Fellos helps you

At Fellos, we know how big the barrier can be to seek help. That's why we make it easy and discreet:

• 100% online process, with no awkward conversations.
• BIG-registered Dutch doctors.
• Free discreet home delivery.
• Always available for questions and follow-up consultations.
  

Our mission is to make care accessible and negotiable for men. You no longer have to be left with worries or uncertainties.

Take the first step today

Don't keep walking around with doubts. You deserve a sex life where you feel comfortable and confident. Schedule a meeting with a sexologist today or order the right medications safely. Together, we work for a better sex life, on your terms.

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